Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Grover Wehman-Brown

• 10 november 2025
• 9789083627540

Samenvatting:

Deciding whether you should stay in the US or if you should go live this next phase of life in another country can be overwhelming. While it may seem daunting or even impossible to pick up and leave countries, the Stay or Go Workbook helps readers research and reflect on their options, making informed decisions about their future.

The sixty-one worksheets in the Should I Stay or Should I Go workbook guides readers through reflecting on what's true in their lives, what could be possible, and what they ultimately want. Then, it supports readers in determining their thresholds for leaving, exploring where they might live, how they might leave, and to identify strategies to strengthen their digital and physical security. Ultimately, the book helps readers know that whatever the outcome — if they stay or if they go — they made an informed decision about their future.

What’s in the workbook?

Risk evaluation frameworks to help you assess different risks and opportunities within the current conditions.

Tools to help you identify and hold complexity without getting stuck.

Reflection prompts to help name priorities, acknowledge your feelings, and imagine possibilities.

Prompts to help you identify and name personal / familial thresholds for leaving.

Checklists and worksheets to help you keep track of your research and intentions.

Resources and supportive prompts to help you plan the best next-steps for this next season of life, no matter what answer you come to at the end of the workbook.

Warm & colorful designs.

Writing that combines storytelling with calm, grounded, get-shit-done instructions.

About the Authors:

Grover and Nova Wehman-Brown created the Should I Stay or Should I Go Workbook to share tools they used when faced with their own complex choices about leaving the US or staying put under the pressure of rising authoritarianism, rising costs of living in the United States, gun violence, and an eroding safety net. After many years of interrupted conversations whispered from the front seat of the family car and late nights researching what could be possible, they now live in the Netherlands with their school-aged children.